Did you see Jessica today?
That’s how every day starts.
Did you see Tim today?
Forty Days of Dating brilliantly but unflinchingly unpeels the rugged bumpy weird-looking avocado that can be a relationship. Two long-time friends in New York agree to date each other exclusively for 40 days to see if they can resolve their personal dating issues and terrors and Asperger’s syndrome-like passion-killers, and maybe even fall for each other.
Did anything interesting happen?
Their opening video explained the rules and offers some clues into these people. One still, serious, mysterious, maybe nervous and sad. One jumpier, playful or natural performer, a human visual buffet of ticks and some attention needs. People around the world followed their story online, day by day, and were so moved they stopped their own lives for a moment to dig inside and feel and offer up art that resonated for each day’s experience. The art gets posted with the daily journaling, a gorgeous feast of being alive.
The pair faithfully and openly share the story of their days and dates, answering questions without guise (Jessica) and with some jaunty self-awareness mixed with dark glasses (Tim). You’ll recognize yourself somewhere along their way. You may think you won’t. You will however in those forty days’ worth of postings find a chip of you.
Did you learn anything new?
Love is hard. Love is willfully coating yourself with butter and jumping into a campfire. Love is when I tell you this fails 98% of the time but you’ll need to try to do it three to forty times in your life anyway. Love is a magnificent temperamental car that comes with a flat and a broken belt guaranteed, and a funny sound in the back, but you head across the country in it anyway because maybe the engine won’t blow. Maybe for you it will be fine and you’ll make it. That is what Love is. If you didn’t know that, you’ll know it by Day 31.
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How do you feel about this relationship project right now?
How in sweet bedazzled hell is the wedding industry so enormous?
How great is it that the heart keeps taking its chances? And that we all care?
It's worth noting that Warner Bros just bought the screen rights to the project. Yay. We'll be seeing you at the theatre.